The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking [Oliver Burkeman] on *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Success. In his new book, Oliver Burkeman shuns motivational seminars and the power of ‘Antidote’ Prescribes A ‘Negative Path To Happiness’. Summary and reviews of The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman, plus links to a book excerpt from The Antidote and author biography of Oliver Burkeman.

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The problem is that we have developed the habit of chronically overvaluing positivity and the skills ubrkeman ‘doing’ in how we think about happiness and that we chronically undervalue negativity and the ‘not-doing’ skills, such as resting in uncertainty or getting friendly towards failure.

See how the Daily Mail taps into the fear of a large segment of the middle class that their respectable status is vulnerable and could be taken away any minute by a government or Europe that doesn’t care. If you are the type of person who doesn’t believe in self-help books, I would tell you to try this out.

How the Buddhists detach themselves from their negative and positive emotions and observe them dispassionately. Your purchase helps support NPR programming. You know, I didn’t get arrested, I didn’t get attacked, I didn’t explode — it was just slightly uncomfortable. The thing is though, I entered the contest because I read the summary and immediately laughed because hand to god this book was almost exactly antjdote conversation I was having with a good friend recently.

Not where I live. He is never sneering or snooty about the self-help world he explores, and is always willing to tye to whoever he is examining whatever truth might lie behind their claims. Many of the ideas presented within these pages were already at least vaguely familiar to me, especially those of the Stoics and at least some of the Buddhists. I know this is going to come as a shock to many antidofe you, but I am not exactly an “Up With People” kind of guy, and the relentless forced positivity within a certain section of the liberal arts these days, despite being done for the most noble intentions, tends to wear me out.

What makes it great is its insistence of not having a one-size-fits-all formula to feeling happiness or a better and delicious word used here and elsewhere is, if I may capitalise it, Eudaemonialet alone exposing the tenuous and very subtle nature of what we usually call happiness, which among many things is mainly sensed in hindsight.

He provides enough names and references to follow up on your own if you are interested, and if the book serves any purpose this would be it. Oct 18, Mehrsa rated it really liked it. Happiness is neither the journey nor the destination, it’s simply something we get more than enough of when we travel the right way.


I highly recommend this book to anyone interested in popular psychology research. It becomes especially obnoxious burkemn the author denounces other authors lack of rigor only to himself use ancient Greek philosophy and Alan Watts as backbones to his arguments.

The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking

This is a very good albeit not perfect book, illustrating several schools of thought that bear on the issue of happiness — or contentment, or acceptance; there are definite nuances. Whilst I greatly admire a lot of what the author said, his ideas and suggestions are very much geared up to a certain sort of personality – and I am not that personality.

Happiness for People Burkemwn Can’t Stand Positive ThinkingBurkeman spoke with psychologists, life coaches and other experts to figure out what does work when it comes to being happy. Basically we were talking about how we find the whole “self-help” thing boring.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been just accepting whatever mood I’m in and getting on with what I have to do in my day, and I feel happier already. I’m also very sceptical, especially about psychological strategies to ‘get the most out of life’. How setting high goals can lead to goal-attachment and blindness to reality.

The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking by Oliver Burkeman

Published November 13th by Farrar, Straus and Giroux. On the one hand, telling myself that things’ll work out somehow, helped silence my panic-stricken rants. I kept reading because this book is bkrkeman much more. But I’m definitely not one for always looking on the bright side of life, and I wouldn’t call myself an optimist at all.

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And strangely enough, I had never– rarely felt better. We stop asking ourselves: It’s a burkemab introduction to alternatives to positive thinking, antidotr The Antidote never goes deep enough into any one subject to make it a memorable book or one that is worth re-reading. All the goal setting we do, all the positive visualizations, are attempts to nail down a secure surprise-free future.

All it took, was reading a few small anecdotes about some well-known to people OTHER than me, of course antidpte speakers, who sooner or later ended up going bankrupt. Jan 08, Marie Murrell rated it it was amazing. The other perspective is the one that Rowling also points to: Whatever idea you are trying to squash down will only continue to pop What a clever and amusing and interesting and thoughtful book!


A witty, fascinating, and counterintuitive read that turns decades of self-help advice on its head and forces us to rethink completely our attitudes toward failure, uncertainty, and death. Just please be respectful of my way of thinking.

It’s not that I sail through life in some completely serene state, but that the problems and the obstacles and bugkeman irritations can be dealt with more swiftly when you are not locked into this idea that you have to stamp them out; that you have to make yourself feel motivated, for example, before you can get on with things that need doing; that there’s something terribly, terribly wrong with not feeling incredibly excited and cheerful every moment of the day.

A better goal The subtitle here is the hook: Anything that can go wrong, will. Only at the very end does he come close to questioning happiness as the most desirable outcome.

This is probably not burkemsn to most people. Its highly recommended for those who really can’t stand positive thinking and want something more worthwhile and satisfying.

He knows that because, for his new book, The Antidote: Those same qualities are on display in The Antidotewhich also allows him to go beyond the limits of the column and get almost as close as you can to a recipe for contentment while rejecting the whole idea of a wellbeing formula.

I found a patient sitting there, crying quietly. The knowledge Burkeman draws on may well come from others, but the book’s quiet wisdom is all his own. So what is the “backward path” to happiness?

He talks about arriving at “a different definition of happiness itself”, although he doesn’t attempt to specify one, concluding that “these things are excruciatingly hard to put into words”.

Myers’s observations aren’t so useful after all. See 1 question about The Antidote…. But its very awkwardness is a reminder of the spirit that it expresses, which includes embracing imperfection and easing up on the search for neat solutions.

Somehow the positive-thought advocates have created the sense that their approach is about embracing life when, in fact, the opposite is true: